Sophia Abella on the TransLiving Issue 39 November cover

TRANSLIVING ISSUE 39 featuring Luke Anderson Big Brother Winner, Sophia Abella, Sparkle 2012 TG Celebration, Brighton Pride 2012, The National Diversity Awards: Paris Lees, Drew-Ashlyn Cunningham, Karen Ann Gale, Shinata Kristina Sangha, Dusty O Tranny Academy, Chris Studio-Mirage photo shoots, fashion and makeup tips/advice. Wig styling advice, contacts column and so much more… Available now in printed hardcopy and digital eBook from http://www.transliving.co.uk/tli-online/contents/en-uk/d7.html

Sophia Abella features on Ripping Runways Magazine Cover

 

A TV show in development with a major TV network in California called "Runway Battles" http://www.wix.com/konsciousmone1/entertainment a reality modeling show soon!

Sophia Abella The ‘It’ Girl Questions

1. What does hotness mean to you?

Hotness is something that could shake your knees constantly, when you get to see devilish vagabond eyes gone remix, and creates stir and commotion everywhere that person goes.

2. What was your hottest moment?

I was at Beijing International Airport waiting for my flight when a hot guy came into my view and took my breath away in the middle of a busy cafe. He asked, ‘can I sit by your table’? And he did as though he took my subtle smile as my permission. We exchanged random salacious thoughts to kill time, and then he stood up, acted as if taking a green salad to a public restroom. I was dazzled.

3. Your craziest moment…

I called off my engagement. Pretty sure that was one of my most bizarre moments in my lifetime. I could live ‘no diamond’ on my left finger, but marrying a guy you don't love could consequently lead to a massive damage in the relationship. Trying so hard to come up with an ultimate happiness formula is rather unhealthy and way beyond reality. Actually it’s beyond craziness.

4. Your force of strength...

I noticed that many people on the planet brag about their power, fame and money. That many aren't up to their true happiness. They can say whatever they want to say and try to pass it off as for real, trying to impress whomever. But this to me is unreal. To me, the only person whom i find the most beautiful and such a perfect woman who stood by me for three decades is my loving mother. She's my bestfriend and my force of strength.

5. The secret behind your hotness...

My zero effort sexuality and sensuality, especially the ones my body oozes when the camera is rolling. Chuckling. OK, my Twitter bio says it all: Uncoachable. Bindass model. Made from Bollywood heroine and spice with extra. Lamb trapped in a lion’s body. Provocative. Pixel perfect with dirty wishes. Just feel carefree, know winning conversations and practice art of eloquence. Gives you confidence and boost your personality with an oomph factor. But I have my own concoction - i regret to say, it’s a secret.

6. Your favourite seductive outfit in the wardrobe...

I’ve few pairs in my vault, it depends if I’m in the mood or in no mood. La Senza is one of my favourites in my repertoire and I recently added La Perla and Shirley Hollywood from Wicked Temptations. Normally, I go lacey boyleg, it reveals my spicy bedunkadunk to the extreme level of sexiness. An effective and simple manner is, I always use my eyes to do the talking and it works.

7. The sexiest man in your life is...

I am single, but I have a special drug I called D. Cheeky! Another thing about this Q is that some are judging people by their bold avatars..those can be photoshopped and airbrushed, just like normal models are. You can't really tell what a man really looks like in a picture. Most guys know what to show and their good angles. Given the choice of colliding two, Bollywood actor Ranveer Singhan and Hollywood Chris Evans.

8. What turns you on?

That’s my stress reliever. A naked guy with a pink neck tie surprises me with a home-cooked mouthwatering chicken biryani on a huge plate, spicy chilli beer and with a touch of an authentic Kamasutra aroma.

9.What turns you off?

Finding out the guy I'm dating has a vagina. It totally kills the mood. Laughing. Well, this man has to be ambitious, vigorous and a charmer. Must have outrageous sense of humor and sexy wit. But most important, he should be a metrosexual, should get his waxing, mani-pedi done regularly.

10. Who is your dream man?

Tough. But I tell you this way..Once upon a time, there was this beautiful, Young girl who lived in a city called Life. Unfortunately, this girl had not been born perfect and this imperfection worried and disturbed her. Apart from this, the Young Girl was kind to her family and her friends. She worked hard at her job and was mostly happy, but never felt she could be truly happy because of her physical imperfection. The fact was, this girl was really quite beautiful and nobody except her ever noticed that there was anything wrong about her at all. In spite of this, and in spite of all the admiration she would receive, the Young Girl felt she needed to "change". She felt she had to change, so that she could find what she really yearned for - True Happiness. He exist in a worlds beyond. Fairy tales do come true but sadly he came in a bad time. He was the reason behind how I found ‘true happiness’ in a cruel world.

11. What are your future plans? Where all do we see you next?

A showstopper. A super model. Today I value excellence, and I wrap my affairs with dignity. I have sizeable energy and vibes in everything that I do along with the fact that I’m very outspoken views on society and sexuality. To have a dream role, a Bollywood version. I think the one Maggie Q played in ‘Naked Weapon’.

Sophia Abella, Woman in Full Frock Magazine

Every little girl has a dream. Mine was to be a beautiful sultry and devilish Maggie Q in a black weather peering out magic weapon. Either than that, I longed to be Angelina Jolie – pouting sexily at the camera, candidly and flawlessly. Before I commit myself into something, I give it some real serious thoughts. I have to feel secure about it first before moving forward. I realized that ‘true happiness’ lies within you. If you can’t love yourself, you can’t be free. I sought therapy to help me cope up with all my past emotional baggage and frustration. I’ve always been provocative and I strive to win in every argument I engage in without consciously knowing that I have hurt many people of my bluntness.

I must admit that although I am stern-minded, above others to ask for help, and a self-proclaimed omniscient, I realized that this life is not all there is.  It is tough being a transgender woman let alone living a lifestyle that is unconventional.  I may seem happy but reality reveals that I am not. I concede that.

I was a bloke! I knew it ever since I started feeling differently towards other boys in our class. They liked dribbling balls in the basket ball court while I just sat and watched them from the side court, desperate to go home to play Barbie dolls with my sister. Unfortunately, I was not born perfect and this imperfection has worried and disturbed me. Yet I was (and still am) kind to my family and friends, worked hard, gained many friends and eventually accepted that my physical imperfection is inconsequential. Naturally, I was endowed with physical attractiveness and although I have an advantage over other transgender because of this, I felt I needed to “change”. I felt the need to change to find what I really yearned for – True Happiness.  What I did not realize, was that every change comes with a cost.

The need to change became so eminent to me, it was so strong that I became very impatient, and made a decision to stop to work and try to do something completely different.  I had heard that there were certain paths through the City of Life, which I looked incredibly interesting and absolutely wonderful. I had heard that some of these paths were full of mystery and danger, but also held the chance of great opportunity.  For the next six years, I myself journeying down this so called Central Path.

Being in this journey I have come to realize that happiness is the lone purpose of living. This is the only way I could cope with the lies, the cheating and the deception I was witnessing over the course of time. The then unsure lady boy has become a Woman – no longer the naïve and young one but wise and level-headed.

Because of what I am now, I feel less prone to bullies and discrimination but it saddens me to hear stories of our sisters facing inevitable experiences of prejudice. To show my sympathy and love, I started blogging and use my beauty for a cause. I bait my ass in a sense of giving a reality check, gender and sexuality education to people I encounter. It just feels so empowering and fulfilling. You don’t need to be in an organization or rally to show your sincere advocacy. There are myriad ways to help and continues to fight equality. I promote it on a regular basis.

An incident happened at Intercontinental hotel as I recall. They were five of them from STRAP, and they were blocked from entering the Icon bar and were told that Transgender were not allowed.  Some women complained that Transgender use the female restroom. I was shunned and this has really called my attention. I wrote a complaint to the management and demanded an explanation. Knowing that one of the victims was my friend, I felt the need to save her and rescue her from disrespectful banters and haters. To me, dealing with insensitiveness is unacceptable. I simply dislike seeing someone being bullied.

My advocacy has paid off with faithful readers.  At one point, someone has said to me, “Sophia,  I totally understand how you feel. I’ve gone through it many times and sometimes feel the same way. Sometimes this hopelessness just haunts us and the shadows try to catch us”.  And I replied by telling her that “faith is about believing beyond the reason to believe”. It may seem funny that despite the unjust circumstances, there are others who are in the same kind of situation yet they succeeded in finding happiness.

And to those Transgender who still feel the stigma in the society, start to reckon the time that there are people in your life whom you accepted as a whole yet you did not have the same feelings to equate theirs. You didn’t happen to fall in love with them. That alone should give you empirical evidence that life is not that bad after all, that there are also other people out there who suffer.

And because my past was out in the open and I have touched many lives of transgender people, they have become my inspiration to strive harder and to deliver more! At the moment, I am single and focusing on my modeling and soon to venture acting career. But one day, I’d love to settle down with someone special, adopt some children and have a happy family.

On a positive note, ‘Let go of that ego and insecurity. Realizing it and trying to articulate it stops it in its tracks. A daily battle for everyone I think.

Until then, I’m happy being me.

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All images is photographed by Dale Bacar www.dalebacar.com

Sophia Abella in Pre-Playboy Bunny Revolution teaser

Sophia Abella random Pre-Playboy Photos

Sophia Abella erotica personified- The beauty of a Fetish/BDSM

Sophia Abella Taming The 'cricket Frenzy', KKR Will Create This IPL 5 Season

The countdown to IPL Season 5 has begun aggressively. And I’m impatient to some really excellent matches this year. I have a strong feeling that KKR will create history this season. Not by being underdogs again but by winning absolute victory. All hopes of KKR fans in India and abroad are pinned up on Gautam Gambhir – Jersey No.5 (the captain), to lead the team to a path less traveled at least by KKR, the path to phenomenal victory.

I believe in miracles. And I believe miracles happen in a believer’s life. It’s perceiving with the eye that IPL teams not just considering but believing in themselves and preparing to entertain billions of cricket lovers across the globe. Good thing, most commentators aren't on twitter. Otherwise they would say KRK instead of KKR, at least a couple of times.

Let’s not draw early conclusions. Kolkata Knight Riders is a strong team and should make it to the final stages. T-20 is all about the snap decisions taken on field. Fantabulous spontaneity is a result of a great level of fitness combined with 100% presence of mind. Not every player can boast of having skilled with raging good judgment.

Only those who have eagerly desired about winning and unwillingness to accept defeat can be seen with such unending passion on field. And KKR does have blessed players who have what it takes to win. The team may have had a bad start. Actually ‘bad’ would be an exaggeration. ‘terrible’ is better. But that does not mean the team has no hunger for victory. Not clearly understood. Of course it does! Meeting the inward-focus of cricket is all there is, the intense talks- the team owner says it all.

It’s just early days for KKR and will come back definitely with powerful batsmen and bowlers. So much spicy scenarios will be seen in upcoming matches, twist has been proven and not to lost focus on the game. They will take revenge. The KKR players of IPL Season 5 have just one thing on their minds. And that is to win until the end!

I shall wear KKR’s official merchandise “Go Purple, Go Knights” and I’m the Queen to wear purple lingerie, strip dance, jump and shout at every accomplishment of the team on the field. Wanna bet on it?

Winning is not everything. It is the only thing!
Korbo Lorbo Jeetbo re!

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Sophia Abella changes her sex and became a model in New Magazine UK

Sophia Abella 'The Secret in my Pants' on Pick Me Up Magazine UK

Nature chooses who will be LGBT and proud to be a transgender woman; individuals don't choose this. At the beginning of each year, we have conceptual meetings. People are people.

Top 10 Dating Site Tips revealed by Patti Stanger

1. To get a better mate, you need a better photo - as in professional ones.

2. You can wink/signal, but do not ask a man out if you are a girl. Guys need to do the picking.

3. Make sure your mate is for real, ask him questions on the phone. Bad voice, no voice (text only), no date!

4. Meet in public places only...no exceptions!

5. Don't go on sites where you can see if he's back online after a date, it will make you feel bad.

6. Ask for current photos via call to make sure it's the same person you are talking to.

7. Drinks & coffee dates are okay for online, but not for referral dates.

8. Make an ID that's fun & flirty to stand out from rest of the pack.

9. If a user asks for more photos, he never calls or gets explicit sexually...move on.

10. Have fun, be light & breezy with it & good mates will be attracted to you.

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What is real, trying hard and fake testosterone?

We all want fun. Well, anyone I want to associate with wants fun anyway. Being transgender is a blessing/curse. I guess so. I guess you have to carry the weight of individual and societal prejudices but it doesn't define you. You are more than your sex and I know each and everyone know that. Love doesn't come easily to any of us and the harder we look for it the more elusive it becomes. Shine your beacon, be yourself and you'll attract the right people into your life.

Good men from adult websites- that's new. I spent some time on adult websites, OK if you're looking for great uninhibited sex, probably not the the first choice for a long term relationship! They're all amazed I've never been insecure, I guess I'm really that someone special.

Anyone patronizing, admiring etc should be dismissed as a loser using a crude tool to ingratiate himself with you. Anyone fawning or falling over you when they don't know you is infatuated with an image or using you to project their desires on to. You can't know someone from a blog, a photo, even your detailed answers to the dating website questions, those are just clues and cues to compatibility and to dribble into a keyboard at that stage is well, er,... inappropriate.

They love the way I use 'suck and twist his mind' . The imagery is seductive.

I'm also inclined to wear my heart on my sleeve and put my man on a pedestal. It doesn't work, your love is taken for granted and your partner, flattered at first to be on the pedestal soon starts to believe they should be there and that leads to an unbalanced - freakishly unbalanced - relationship. I have to continually check myself not to gush (particularly too much too soon) but I fall in love easily and out of love painfully so it's hard- to hold back.

Shine your light; beam your true you, your best you to the world and the ones you attract will know the real you. If you want men to be attracted to your physicality, display your body. If you want men to be attracted to your wit, wisdom and intellect then show that. If you want men to be attracted to you emotionally, spiritually and psychologically then show that. Men will always be attracted to the body first, it's hardwired so if you show how beautiful you are they will agree with the rest in order to sleep with you. Men are visually stimulated, women are more attracted to wealth, strength, loyalty, and compassion.

I can talk your ears off about men and women and the codes, rules and communication failures between them. Bizarrely I used to do that sort of thing for a living and I'm really good at it hahaha. OK, happy dating!