Poonam Pandey's figure too distracting for men or being overlooked?

Poonam Pandey, in case you haven't heard of her, born on 11th March 1991, is an Indian model and a self-proclaimed cricket fan. The New Generation Girl in Mumbai and the most downloaded model on internet on her Twitter Bio. She trips nude if blue team wins makes worldwide trending and has frequently made the headlines for all the wrong reasons. Who recently attack by bullies despising her for being "too hot".

Yes, according to her statement, the Kingfisher model shares her insights on World Cup 2011 were so overwhelmed by her looks that she was ‘Woman of every Hour ‘for dressing too sexily, was flooded of offers about from some of her skimpy bikini and was then ask to act in Hollywood

While she claims she wore modest fashion clothing and did nothing to provoke the male reaction, men in India around her couldn't seem to keep it in their pants. A spoofy blogger gave the 19-year-old single model a long list of clothing items that she would not be allowed to wear, which included Burkha, turtlenecks, pencil skirts, fitted suits and three-inch heels. (Burkha is too sexy? Really?!)

$37 million for alleged sexual harassment, it leads me to wonder whether women are really that distracting for men in the social networks. Can men really not control themselves when faced with a beautiful woman? Or do women simply dress too provocatively , flirt too much for comfort, embraced sexuality or branding publicity?

Sure, men think about sex every seven seconds (or every hour, or every day, depending on what survey you read). In my previous article ‘What Bloody Hell Men Are Thinking’? "If you don't understand us, there's something wrong with you," one wise man often tells me. "We're basically one step up from a caveman."

And sure, men are distracted by revealing clothing (especially on Twitter while driving). And yes, according to scientific research, men get more stupid in the presence of beautiful women and they tend to lose their minds in the face of ample cleavage, spicy bedunkadunk and a pair of skinny legs. But is it really that hard for them to keep it to themselves? ANTM model and mentor Tyra Banks creates urban dictionary for butt popping called- booty tooch. Men misread ‘Beauty Touch”.

According to a poll I carried out of men in my dating, adult and social websites, 100 per cent of them answered with a resounding "yes". Apparently it really is that difficult for the male species to practice a little self control.

"You've got to be prudent these days," said one. "It's a struggle contain the excitement," said another. And third guy replied with this: "Unless you're under video surveillance or a homosexual, it's impossible not to stare and sometimes even do something about it!"

While women (especially the wives and girlfriends) have long expressed about men perving on the opposite sex, how far is too far when it comes to women dressing provocatively? And what actually is provocative dressing?

According to American Justice Potter Stewart's famous quotation, the answer is simple: "I know it when I see it."

Yet, an old axiom holds that it's a woman's fault line if she dresses way too provocatively and "If it's not for sale, don't advertise."

I wonder, therefore, as a single girl in a world in which advertising centres on flaunting sexuality, what is appropriate? What is sexually appealing? And what would lead a man to view you as "easy" rather than someone he wants to date?

For Indian culture, the best outfit a woman can wear isn't something that "advertises" all her bits, but rather a simple, casual toned- Burkha.

"I think I attract the wrong sorts of men," I whispered.

And that Poonam Pandey perhaps says it all..
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What the bloody hell are men thinking?

Most women have one gripe in common when it comes to romantic relationships. They'll never understand men.

"If you don't understand us, there's something wrong with you," one wise man often tells me. "We're basically one step up from a caveman."

But it's not our fault either. Sometimes men are rude, unresponsive or moody, only to turn around later (after we've been sobbing to our mates for hours) to tell us they were simply hungry, horny or tired. My gay friend reckons that the more straight-forward, realistic, honest and balanced you are with a man, the more he takes advantage and gives you the opposite reaction back. "They're like children," he says. "They take advantage of you. Reward bad behaviour by being nice and they get worse. You can't win."

Sure, men are notorious for not wearing their hearts on their sleeves, for not saying it like it is (or at least that's how we perceive it because men think they're always straightforward), for stringing us along (which they claim is not their fault but rather ours for falling in love with them too soon) and then having it all blow up in our faces when they finally tell us the truth: they simply aren't ready for a girlfriend.

So I was intrigued to say the least, when I read that author Zoe Strimpel spent a year undercover interviewing hundreds of men, in the hope of coming up with explanations for their strange behaviours and foibles. The result? A book titled What the Hell is He Thinking? which aims to debunk some of the myths we associate with the men in our lives. See what you think ….

MYTH: Men get over their exes right away.

TRUTH: Men find it far harder to get over their exes than women do.

I often marvel at the ability of recently dumped blokes to get over their exes faster than a speeding bullet. But Strimpel reckons it's not as easy for them as they make it out to be. They're just better at hiding their feelings. "Because they don't feel able to discuss their emotions with their mates as we do with ours, it's hard for them to really get out all their hurt and move on, so the emotional pain festers," says Strimpel. "Whereas we tend to cry for weeks, then start to feel better, a guy will keep quiet, shag around, then realize he hasn't moved on when you're already out with the next guy."

MYTH: If you hang around a guy for long enough, he'll commit to you.

TRUTH: Many men string along women for two to three months without ever intending to have a relationship.

What is it with a man stringing a woman along for three months or so, only to say he never really wanted a girlfriend in the first place and that he no longer wants to see her … ever again?

While women are notorious for doing the "fantasy jump" (imagining the white wedding and the names of their kids after a few dates), some men seem to do the opposite. Call them commitment-phobes but the more intense things become, the more they back off, believing that the relationship is going to be a mammoth threat to their freedom, their sex life and their bachelor pad. Hence they rationalize they better exit stage left, and fast, before – heaven forbid! – things actually start to become serious.

Adam, 31, calls these men "Casanovas" and tells Strimpel this: "Casanovas teach themselves how to make women fall for them, because they weren't always the smoothies they are now. They get off on the validation of getting it right over and over, but don't care about a long-term result - and they're cold perfectionists."

MYTH: Men who cheat can reform.

TRUTH: Your mother was right: Once a cheater, always a cheater.

I thought this was about right when a married man told me the other night he was "interested", to which I replied, "Not a chance in hell mate." He couldn't understand my answer. "Thirty other women have been with me while I've been married and haven't cared about the ring," he responded, thinking that would make it OK. It wouldn't.

Strimpel says that the surprising thing that came out of her research was that, even if you're "the other woman" and think you're so special that you rescued some dude from his fledgling relationship or boring life of matrimony, don't think that he won't do it to you, too. He will. And he'll do it again and again. Apparently (according to the blokes she interviewed) the saying is true: once a cheater, always a cheater. Because blokes do it, there's nothing to stop them from trying it again.

MYTH: When your boyfriend starts to act distant and weird, it's because he's hungry or stressed.

FACT: Men act weird when they want out of the relationship but don't want to be confrontational so they hope you'll dump them first instead.

We're so often told that, when a man becomes distant, he's hungry, wants sex or is stressed. But sometimes Strimpel says the answer is a little more complex: he's no longer interested in the relationship and is hoping that if he acts like a douchebag long enough, you'll dump him first instead. Ouch.

MYTH: Men hate it when we talk too much.

FACT: Men love it when we say certain things.

Following in Strimpel's footsteps, I decided to carry out my own research and, over the past few years, have been carrying out a poll which involves asking men about the phrases they love to hear coming out of our mouths. This is what the men have told me. Feel free to add to the list ...

"You're right."

"Size doesn't matter."

"Will you help me unscrew this?"

"Your [insert body part] is amazing."

"I love your bald head / grey hair."

"You are so good at [insert action here]."

"Dinner will be on the table when you get home ... served naked … by me."

"Anything that involves us being fed or getting laid ... "

Enough said!

Sophia Abella: Top 5 Popular New Year's Resolutions, Drama Queen No More

Christmas is perfect moment for reflection, and I am reflecting on my past year and groaning. There were highs, in between emotions and there were lows, and there were things that should never happen again for the sake of my dignity and overall well-being principle. The 2010 version of me was a lesser version of the forthcoming 2011 edition; I just know it. 2012 will be my year!

So this Yuletide season, I am resolving to put an end to all of those things that kept me boggle and astray. And, quite frankly, I think there are few things we should all resolve to leave in 2011. Let’s all make and keep these resolutions together:

Facebook:
You are the bane of my existence. What girl in their right mind ever thought it was a good idea to frequently post status updates that were simply seeking for attention? Or listing off her exact whereabouts 24/7 so those creepy-crawly surfers could follow her around? This Facebook sydrome is just another avenue for people to have a public beg-pity-party, to spark off revenge via album pictures making out with strange dudes/blokes, to stalk exes and horrible bosses. This year, I declare to take a step back from the computer and live life not on Facebook’s terms. Or on my ex boyfriend’s Newsfeed.

Men:
In 2012, we should all resolve to not let a guy edict our mood. Yes, men have the ability to make us the happiest we’ve ever been, but they can also make us suck up to in the fetal position and battle cry for one week straight. One bad breakup has the power to put me in a state of hibernation until family and friends recognize me as a full-fledged hermit with cheesy-cookie dough in my hair, and I know I’m not the only one. This year, I refuse to let whatever is happening in my love life affect the rest of my life. Because if the world revolved around a single man, we’d all be in big trouble.

Health:
Amazingly proud I stopped smoking. Hopeful this year you smokers smoke healthy human cigar instead and we will not insist our jeans fit us when our extra “baggage” spills over the top. Acceptance is the first step towards recovery from the unsightly muffin top and that deep red ring around our belly button that comes with it. Indulge in Lotte Burke, Zumba or just simply grab Total Core and Total Sauna. We don’t have to go out, and dress ourselves hitting to the gym. Why spend money if you can do it at home. Holding on to our delusions of still being a size beer bottle, even after we binge-ate holiday and forbidden food for over a month, is not healthy. Rather than walking around in ill-fitting clothes, let’s resolve by detoxifying and cleansing wheatgrass.

Opportunity:
Let’s all resolve to embrace opportunities in all constructive forms. Whether it’s a date with a guy you don’t know that well or simply trying something you’ve never done before boot-tucking anyone?), let’s make 2012 the year where nothing is off limits. I think I will take a page out of Yes and Man’s World Magazine (OK, Friends with Benefits-Pizza my Heart-Beauty and the Briefcase) and make myself more available to opportunity and adventure. Because, well, why not? Jokingly, ‘til we get fucked up and even our boobs are far apart. Improve our life in all angles and still look sizzling summer desserts.

Alcohol:
Let’s welcome and celebrate 2012 not acting like a drunken Lindsay Lohan impersonator ever (again). Nobody likes that girl. That girl is always the one acting inappropriate in front of guys. She’s the one bitching out her friends for no good reason. She’s the one who comes home and eats the entire contents of the fridge whilst she waits for her delivery. And unless you take pleasure in one-night stands, a beer gut, nip slips and vomit chunks in one’s hair, nothing good ever happens for this girl. I love my vodka, but I love my pride a whole lot more.

At least this coming year, I do.